No, it’s not “marriage equality.” Gays have had the equal right to marry since Walt Whitman. No gay man or lesbian has ever been prevented from marrying because of his or her sexual orientation. I know many happily married gays and lesbians. I’m as queer as a three dollar bill, and I plan to marry some day.
It’s just that gays and lesbians do not have the right to redefine marriage to match their minority viewpoint about what marriage is. If they did have that right, why wouldn’t I have the right to re-re-define marriage to match my majority viewpoint about what marriage is? If everyone gets the equal right to redefine marriage to match their own ideas about matrimony, then the only fair way to determine what marriage is would be to go with the majority, which would be man-woman marriage.
As a point of fact, same sex couples cannot be legally married in the US except in Massachusetts and now California. Even if a couple is married in those states, however, the Federal Government does not recognize the marriages.
The marriage equality movement is simply about allowing any two adult citizens the right to marry each other, without requiring them to be of different sexes.